That Time I Joined a Cult

It started innocently enough. A friend was going through something rough. She assembled a handful of people who were individually supportive of her but largely didn’t know each other. (Some of them did. I didn’t. I didn’t know anyone but […]

It Takes So Little

Just a few hours ago, I was happy crying. I saw my chiropractor today. Because I was taking a day of PTO (mental health days are a real thing), and because I didn’t particularly feel like dressing up, I didn’t […]

I Did a Thing

That thing I said I was gonna do? I did it. I came out. On Facebook. And as if that weren’t enough, I followed it up by fully coming out at work today. Like, I showed up at the office […]

I Said I Wouldn’t. I Lied.

I should know better than to make absolutely statements. I really should. But, y’all—I do things I shouldn’t do. Like, all the time. Case in point. A while back I said I wasn’t ever gonna make any kind of big […]


I hate this feeling. I’ve known for a while now that I need to start moving. Not with transition. That’s underway. Hormones and whatnot are happening. No, I mean with other real life things. I need to start writing for […]

8 Things I’ve Learned in the Last 2 Weeks

Learning is awesome. Also, it sucks. It’s usually uncomfortable and challenging, even if there’s a payoff in the end. And there IS a payoff, which is why I try to embrace it … even when that’s like embracing a rabid […]

Be Fucking Proactive

I got angry tonight. Not pissy or enraged or righteously indignant. Just angry, and (I think) appropriately so. I heard from someone for the first time in months. Someone from a trans support group. Someone who actively volunteers to play […]

Talking to Myself (Again)

I’ve admitted before that I talk to myself. I really do. Out loud. On and off all day. And most of those conversation are either me ranting about something I’m upset about (not helpful) or rehearsing how I’ll deal with […]

The Thing About the Things

I begin way too many posts by LOUDLY declaring that, OMG, so much has changed. That’s kinda the nature of being trans. And of life. Things change. Sometimes big things. I should probably stop freaking the fuck out about it every […]